Why The Whole “New You” Promised By Most Weight Loss Regimes Is A Load Of Shit.
Here is why.
You’ll lose all of the fat, get to your target weight, but still something won’t feel right.
The same gnawing emptiness from before lurks within. The same edginess. The same all pervading restlessness. You should feel happy. You should feel over the moon (and granted you probably do feel better than before).
But you still won’t feel right.
You’ll hit your target weight, fit into your skinny pair of jeans but you won’t feel that much different. It’s an anti-climax as you still feel like yourself.
The new you doesn’t exist. All of the positive thinking in the world cannot create something that simply isn’t there.
I remember thinking “shit if I ever hit 200 pounds I’ll feel like fucking, wow!’. I hit 200 pounds, seen the number staring back at me and felt nothing but the neon glow from the scale burning into my retina.
I thought it’d be spectacular. A momentous occasion. Looking back on it, it was as if I expected Gok Wan to jump out of my closet, dance around the skinny new me in a circular war dance, tickle my balls and put a party hat on my head, but no.
That’s why all of those before and after weight loss shots are full of shit. Typically you’ll see someone transform from a glum ogre with a bad haircut to a skinny looking motherfucker high on fucking oxygen.
It isn’t real. Sure they look different but inside they still feel largely the same.
It’s A Myth. But A Profitable One, Jim.
Ask most people who have lost weight how they feel better about themselves and they’ll typically say that they now feel.
All 3 of those ultimately rely on feedback from the outside world. It only takes one fucking idiot to ruin ‘the new you’ and for “the old you” to be straight back there.
This is not to say that you won’t feel better after you lose weight. You will do. But it isn’t that great.
You won’t be striking fucking poses in the mall with a bit of celery in your hand.
Sure I’m much more active before, have more confidence and travel across the world on my own but I still have moments where I feel like shit and want to be on my own.
But I’ve always been that way.
Do It For Yourself.
If you lose weight to gain the acceptance of the people who derided you for being fat, then your insecurities about your weight will move into a different area. You will feel bad about having a wacky head, a club foot or a lazy eye (or in my case all three).
Be careful about believing compliments as you’ll be just as quick to believe the insults that will inevitably come your way. Know who you are and know why you’re doing what you’re doing and don’t let up.
The people who gave you shit before are nothing but fucking cunts and aren’t worthy of your attention. Change yourself because it’s right thing to do for you, not because you’re constantly taking shit off losers.
The important thing is to centre yourself and find contentedness for it’s own sake. If that involves losing weight to feel better about yourself, then do it.
You will feel better, but you’ll still have a long way to go to find peace within yourself.