When will you finally be happy with yourself? In society, overweight people are typically ridiculed and classed as lazy, greedy, and without any willpower and that couldn’t be any further from the truth.
In my case, I’ve been trying to get started on losing the weight I’ve gained over the last year for the last few months but it’s never stuck, not because I’m lacking willpower but because the shame and misery caused by the weight have made me question the fucking point of doing it so many times that I’ve stopped, agreed with myself simply to “eat less” only to return 2 days later balls deep in a bucket of KFC.
Building your recovery on shame is a non-starter. I’ve only made progress recently as I’ve accepted where I am through a series of bad choices made to “escape” some frankly intolerable mental states. I knew it wouldn’t work at the time but still did it. Either I’m a fucking moron or I’ve always wanted to survive, I’ve just not had the tools or the resources to do something healthy when an unhealthy thought arises.
Plus when I look back at when I was in the best condition I’ve ever been in, I was still fucking miserable then. Looking back at that mindset when I’m 4 stone heavier just makes me think “this is not a worthwhile journey”. Happiness does not start in the future. It only begins now, if you’re not happy NOW you never will be. All the diets and associated happiness that they try to sell you are a fucking lie. The before and after shots.
To put it in more politically correct terms.
Losing weight can be a challenging journey
But it’s important to remember that the ultimate goal is not just about reaching a certain number on the scale. It’s about finding happiness and self-acceptance at any size.
Many people believe that they will only be happy and feel confident when they reach their desired weight. However, this mindset can lead to disappointment and frustration when the scale doesn’t move as quickly as they hoped. It’s common to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others or to your past self, but this only leads to self-loathing and dissatisfaction.
The truth is, you are already there. You are already worthy and deserving of love and happiness, regardless of your weight. It’s time to break free from the negative self-talk and embrace self-love on your weight loss journey.
Here are a few tips to help you focus on self-love and acceptance:
- Practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would with a friend. Remember that everyone makes mistakes and has setbacks, and it’s okay to forgive yourself.
- Focus on progress, not perfection. Instead of setting unrealistic expectations for yourself, focus on the progress you have made so far. Celebrate your small victories and acknowledge your hard work.
- Surround yourself with positive influences. Surround yourself with people who support and encourage you, and avoid those who bring negativity into your life.
- Practice gratitude. Take time each day to reflect on the things you are grateful for, including your body and its abilities.
In conclusion, it’s important to remember that your worth and happiness are not defined by your weight. You are already there, and it’s time to embrace self-love and acceptance on your weight loss journey. By focusing on progress, positivity, and gratitude, you can find happiness and confidence at any size.+
